Writer's Block: Go it alone
Dec. 10th, 2009 08:35 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
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Relationships, probably. Children, not so much these days. Actually, there's different GROUPS that exert different pressures; for instance, my wife and I belonged to an anime fan circle and a number of those were essentially offended when we dared have a child. Others in the group were fascinated by the baby, but it was actually possible to wander through the different groups of people I knew and see clear divisions of reaction. There were groups that didn't like young children, and thought people having kids (especially people they knew) were wasting time and energy and generally being stupid. There were other groups who felt children were wonderful. If I were to average out society as a whole, I'd say no, there's no pressure on either side for or against children. However, you are very unlikely to live in an environment where the average is actually seen.
Relationships of some sort are a bit different. While most of *MY* "relationship" pressure was purely internal, there is a clear assumption THROUGHOUT society that people tend to pair up.
Around the holidays *all* pressure is amped up. Which is why I prefer to ignore them for most of the time.
Relationships, probably. Children, not so much these days. Actually, there's different GROUPS that exert different pressures; for instance, my wife and I belonged to an anime fan circle and a number of those were essentially offended when we dared have a child. Others in the group were fascinated by the baby, but it was actually possible to wander through the different groups of people I knew and see clear divisions of reaction. There were groups that didn't like young children, and thought people having kids (especially people they knew) were wasting time and energy and generally being stupid. There were other groups who felt children were wonderful. If I were to average out society as a whole, I'd say no, there's no pressure on either side for or against children. However, you are very unlikely to live in an environment where the average is actually seen.
Relationships of some sort are a bit different. While most of *MY* "relationship" pressure was purely internal, there is a clear assumption THROUGHOUT society that people tend to pair up.
Around the holidays *all* pressure is amped up. Which is why I prefer to ignore them for most of the time.
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Date: 2009-12-10 01:53 pm (UTC)This is fascinating. I get a little annoyed with the childfree movement - on the one hand, coming from a family where people who won't have children are seen as mentally ill, I appreciate the support their community provides them. On the other hand, some of them are so nasty about it.